Sorry, but You Should NOT Look Up to Ariana Grande.
(a look into the “homewrecker” mentality)
Now now, I don’t wanna hear “Why are we blaming the other woman when the man is the one who chose his fate?” Yes — we know this. A man who cheats on his partner/wife and leaves his family for another woman is weak and utter trash.
I will never give a pass to a man and say he was “convinced” to cheat and leave his family; I believe that a strong and noble man will NOT choose this route and cannot be swayed.
However, I also know that it takes two people to prevent this from happening and we as a society need to stop being so goddamn selfish. Women need to do better and take responsibility for their part. I may be a LITTLE biased because my family got broken up by a homewrecker but that just gives me a more reliable perspective.
My issue with Ariana Grande’s new single, “Yes, and?”
We all know Ariana Grande has a history of dating “taken” men but she hit a new low with this one. Ethan Slater and his wife Lily Jay were high school sweethearts and had just welcomed their first child together. It was noted that Ariana even hung out with the couple and held their baby a few months before the news of their budding romance went public.
My first issue with all of this is that Ariana left her husband for a married man with a newborn, who looks like this (I’m not usually one to trash someone’s looks but Ethan Slater deserves it because he’s a weak and small man desperate for fame and attention). I mean, at least if he looked like Chris Hemsworth I would KINDA get it.
But I digress.
My MAIN issue with all of this is Ariana’s lack of remorse. While I like the general premise of the song (not caring what people think of you and whatnot), the lyrics: “Your business is yours and mine is mine / Why do you care so much whose d**k I ride?” demonstrate not only a lack of care for the hurt people involved but also PRIDE in doing so. It’s not cute, sweetie.
What happened to women supporting other women?
Ariana’s “Yes, and?” perspective pushes out such a toxic message to her young and impressionable fans — that even at the expense of other lives, you should just do whatever you please. I mean, who cares if you break up a new family and cause emotional turmoil to the wife and child involved?
Trust me, as a kid who witnessed my family get broken up by the “other woman”, I know all of the mixed feelings and trust issues this can cause someone growing up.
I don’t see how stealing people’s men and not taking any responsibility for our part in the dissolution of a relationship is “female empowerment.” As brutal and unfair as it is, if there aren’t women going after married men, there won’t be a reason for these weak and small individuals to cheat on their wives and leave their families.
It’s great to see the power that modern feminism has given women but sometimes we take it TOO far.
We should not be excused for nasty, selfish behaviour. Everyone needs to own their sh*t, I don’t care who or what you are. Society pushes an extreme self-serving behaviour and it’s breaking families apart. It’s causing a rise in mental health issues in children, teens, and quite frankly — everyone.
The rise in divorce rates should be alarming people and raising concerns about why this is happening. I truly believe marriage to be a partnership where two people come together and make decisions with each other in mind. The narrative of “live for yourself” is harmful to the future of marriage and families. We CAN’T be selfish if we want long-lasting and healthy relationships.
We’re forgetting about the children. What children witness is so much more impactful than people realize. So, fathers: PLEASE keep it in your pants and learn some self-control. And homewreckers: if you’re not going to care about the woman in a relationship, you should at least care about any children that may be involved.
Being a serial “homewrecker” reeks of insecurity.
There are women who are exclusively attracted to married men or “taken” men in general and there’s clearly a deeper issue there. These particular kinds of people find inner satisfaction in being able to break up someone’s relationship/family because they have deep self-esteem issues.
It’s the chaos — the drama. The idea of “wow, I am so worthy that I was actually able to break up this relationship.” It consumes them and gives them a false self-esteem boost. It isn’t enough for these individuals to simply find a single man and mutually fall in love without chaos; stability is too boring. But stability isn’t boring when you’re a whole person.
But what about the others?
I am not saying that there isn’t an “innocent” mistress every now and then who just gets caught up in the feelings and false promises of a man; I am specifically talking about the ones who know exactly what they are doing and simply do not care.
If we do the inner work, we’ll see that we are capable and deserving of a healthy, calm, and chaos-free relationship. Because the kind of people young and impressionable kids/teens should look up to are the parents/caregivers of a stable and selfless relationship.
