Ah, “closure.” The idea we all so desperately cling to, hoping it will solve all our heartache woes. If only closure was as easy as Rachel leaving Ross a drunken 30-second voicemail.

Closure symbolizes reaching a peaceful and clear conclusion with and toward a person, entity, or idea. Without that peaceful dissolution, the process of moving forward can be a longer road for most people.

So the question is, can you move on without it?

Short answer: no.

Long answer: yes, but you need to continue reading.

When Taylor Swift announced The Tortured Poets Department, I couldn’t have been more thrilled yet petrified. It had ME written all over it — not only for the content and theme but for the timing.

I figured with the release of TTPD, and the theme of this blog being very tortured-poet-like, it made most sense to put my usual content on hold for this.

This album had me reflecting on my past relationships, my youth, as well as the present day, so I want to talk about that.

I’ve seen it firsthand: a nice person goes from being sweet, caring, and patient to cold, resentful, and bitter. This is a result of being repeatedly used or taken for granted by the wrong people.

Being “nice” isn’t the problem — it’s being OVERLY nice that’s the problem.

So, my fellow pathological people-pleasers: This is for you.

Today marks my 10th blog post, and to celebrate, I decided I’m just going to ramble from the heart.

From the date I started this blog to now, my world has flipped its head upside down, and recently, something’s been happening … writer’s block. Ah yes, the dreaded woe to writers around the globe.

After much digging and pondering, I think I’ve figured out why I’ve been faced with this. First, I have to tell you my story.

I don’t think compatibility — alone — is a true measure of whether two people should be together or not; I do, however, believe CONNECTION is the most powerful pillar of a lasting relationship/marriage.

Of course, there are some non-negotiables of compatibility. When you’re looking for a potential partner, you need to “break the fantasy” and ask the real questions so you don’t waste your time.

Okay ladies, I need you to hear me out. I am someone who has every reason to wish for men to burn. I mean, my issues with men started when I was four years old (lol).

I even went through an “all men are trash” phase in college, but quickly realized that didn’t justify any of the pain I went/was going through. Shifting my mindset and broadening the picture helped me see things from a new perspective.

But I have to be brutally honest…

Single does NOT have to mean lonely and depressed. In last week’s blog post, I got into the benefits of partaking in elective solitude. I talked about the concept of being “whole” before getting into a romantic relationship as well as why embracing solitude is vital for true inner-work.

This week we get into the EXACT steps I took on my road to healing.

A season of solitude doesn’t have to be so scary. If you do it right, it can actually be one of the most liberating experiences you’ll go through.

By constantly running away to be saved, you end up running into a new mess that you inevitably find yourself running from in the end, repeating the cycle … again.

Well, I decided I wanted to break that cycle and to do so, I had to face a COLD truth.

Okay, so it seems everyone and their mom know about the ongoing beef between Megan Thee Stallion and Nicki Minaj. But wait — how on EARTH did Ben Shapiro get in the rap god diss-track mix???? Lol.

We can pretend we aim to be the bigger person and “kill ‘em with kindness,” but we all secretly want to know the tip-top secrets of getting real revenge.

Well, I’m gonna give ‘em to you.

Now now, I don’t wanna hear “Why are we blaming the other woman when the man is the one who chose his fate?” Yes — we know this. A man who cheats on his partner/wife and leaves his family for another woman is weak and utter trash.

However, I also know that it takes two people to prevent this from happening and we as a society need to stop being so goddamn selfish. Women need to do better and take responsibility for their part too.

Here we will discuss Ariana Grande's new single "Yes, and?" and how it applies to the "homewrecker" mentality.