How To Get the Ultimate REVENGE.
(and claim back your power)
Okay, so it seems everyone and their mom know about the ongoing beef between Megan Thee Stallion and Nicki Minaj. But wait — how on EARTH did Ben Shapiro get in the rap god diss-track mix? Lol.
While celeb feuds are entertaining and OH SO fun to judge for their ridiculousness, let’s face it: from time to time, we ALL think about revenge. We can pretend we aim to be the bigger person and “kill ‘em with kindness,” but we all secretly want to know the tip-top secrets of getting real revenge. Well, I’m gonna give ‘em to you.
Megan did it right (kind of).
Between Megan and Nicki in this feud, Megan has kept her mouth shut for the most part up until now. She released her diss track, “Hiss” on January 26, clapping back at all the HaTeRz but ultimately only had one verse about Nicki’s murderer/sex offender husband (I’m not going to quote the lyric because it’s become controversial now). Read about it here.
Nicki got MAD. I mean, she went on live rants and just three days later, wrote an ENTIRE song about Megan called “Big Foot.” I understand writing a follow-up to a diss track, but she didn’t have to cut so deep and mention Megan’s “dead mama” several times. This is one of those scenarios in which she should have maybe taken a breather before responding.
To take a step back and assess a situation before reacting is POWER.
Trust me, I know it’s excruciatingly difficult at times. In my late teens and early twenties, I was ALL about petty grievances and wanting anyone who wronged me to feel the presence of my burning wrath. To tell you I’ve embarrassed myself to no end is an understatement.
I have found that as I “mature,” I naturally feel less inclined to fight back like I used to. However, when faced with a very complex situation, I still slip up and react without thinking sometimes — we all do. It’s okay babe, you can still recover as long as you continue to work on your self-control in these situations.
Say nothing at all or keep it very minimal.
I was recently talking to this guy (which I immediately regretted since I’m on a dating strike at the moment) and once I politely expressed to him that I was looking for someone more humble and patient in response to his arrogant and pushy behaviour, he took it a little TOO close to heart.
He ended up writing me an ego-driven response followed by “Take care.” I was burning up inside but I was a BIG GIRL, took a second, and simply responded with “Take care.” Old me would have sent him a dissertation on the essence of decency.
At first, I kept asking myself if I should have said more or explained to him how to talk to women in the future but then I thought, nah — he’s neither worth my time nor my energy. He then proceeded to deactivate his IG account because he was so bothered.
I swear to you: the less you say, the more bothered they’ll be (this is coming from a rehabilitated over-explainer if you couldn’t tell). From the utmost shame of my emotional antics over the years, it's safe to say that I have learned the best strategy for silent revenge.
Step one: Don’t react.
NOTE: If you’ve already reacted, don’t worry, just skip to step two (lol).
Reacting shows the other person that they have power over your emotions. I’ve always said it: nothing hits deeper than someone addressing me in a calm demeanour versus yelling in my face. Someone who is losing control (*cough* Nicki *cough, cough*) is obviously very affected by you and what you’re saying. Yelling/losing control rids them of any power; it’s all bark and no bite.
If you have to react, remain calm and collected, and speak facts — NOT feelings (I’m sorry, I had to). Maintaining your composure commands respect.
Step two: Become the best you.
Yes, I KNOW IT’S SO CLICHÈ but just hear me out: improving your life and mind is the ultimate revenge because it means you can GROW. It means that when people hurt you, you don’t crawl into a dark hole absolutely SEETHING while forging an evil plan that takes up all of your energy/sanity — you simply keep going.
Live your life the way you always have — unbothered — like nothing has happened. Or make your life BECOME the life you want. Just remember not to show off because again, you’re doing this for you, NOT for your enemy. A healthy mindset is crucial because you don’t want to be or appear desperate for attention and validation.
Seek it within yourself, hot stuff.
Step three: Move on (but genuinely).
That’s right — just move on. Juicy stuff right here, I know. You don’t have to be a doormat but sometimes the most powerful thing to do is simply accept defeat and move on quietly. I understand wanting to air out our grievances to the world, telling this person off, ruining their lives, etc., but I’ve learned that, unfortunately, some people just aren’t capable of real accountability and we end up wasting our breath.
Journal, punch a pillow, complain to your mom or your best friend and then move on. Seeking revenge is seeking validation for what this person has said or done to you. I have personally always found it better for myself when I forgive someone in my heart but that doesn’t mean you have to — you can just be indifferent. Nothing kills someone like indifference.
You’re never going to get validation from other people so try and find it in yourself to maintain your composure, regardless. THAT is power; that is revenge.
