Ah, “closure.” The idea we all so desperately cling to, hoping it will solve all our heartache woes. If only closure was as easy as Rachel leaving Ross a drunken 30-second voicemail.

Closure symbolizes reaching a peaceful and clear conclusion with and toward a person, entity, or idea. Without that peaceful dissolution, the process of moving forward can be a longer road for most people.

So the question is, can you move on without it?

Short answer: no.

Long answer: yes, but you need to continue reading.

When Taylor Swift announced The Tortured Poets Department, I couldn’t have been more thrilled yet petrified. It had ME written all over it — not only for the content and theme but for the timing.

I figured with the release of TTPD, and the theme of this blog being very tortured-poet-like, it made most sense to put my usual content on hold for this.

This album had me reflecting on my past relationships, my youth, as well as the present day, so I want to talk about that.

Today marks my 10th blog post, and to celebrate, I decided I’m just going to ramble from the heart.

From the date I started this blog to now, my world has flipped its head upside down, and recently, something’s been happening … writer’s block. Ah yes, the dreaded woe to writers around the globe.

After much digging and pondering, I think I’ve figured out why I’ve been faced with this. First, I have to tell you my story.

Okay ladies, I need you to hear me out. I am someone who has every reason to wish for men to burn. I mean, my issues with men started when I was four years old (lol).

I even went through an “all men are trash” phase in college, but quickly realized that didn’t justify any of the pain I went/was going through. Shifting my mindset and broadening the picture helped me see things from a new perspective.

But I have to be brutally honest…

Single does NOT have to mean lonely and depressed. In last week’s blog post, I got into the benefits of partaking in elective solitude. I talked about the concept of being “whole” before getting into a romantic relationship as well as why embracing solitude is vital for true inner-work.

This week we get into the EXACT steps I took on my road to healing.

A season of solitude doesn’t have to be so scary. If you do it right, it can actually be one of the most liberating experiences you’ll go through.

By constantly running away to be saved, you end up running into a new mess that you inevitably find yourself running from in the end, repeating the cycle … again.

Well, I decided I wanted to break that cycle and to do so, I had to face a COLD truth.

Okay, so it seems everyone and their mom know about the ongoing beef between Megan Thee Stallion and Nicki Minaj. But wait — how on EARTH did Ben Shapiro get in the rap god diss-track mix???? Lol.

We can pretend we aim to be the bigger person and “kill ‘em with kindness,” but we all secretly want to know the tip-top secrets of getting real revenge.

Well, I’m gonna give ‘em to you.

It’s evident that everyone — even the New Year’s resolution naysayers (me) — feels this overwhelming pressure to stir up a resolution by the time the clock strikes 12 on Jan 1st. It’s become a global tradition and we almost feel like a failure if we don’t have a goal in mind. So why is it that by mid-February, 80% of New Year’s resolutions have failed?

(Coming from “the girl with the broken smile.”)

Despite the fact that no one should trust anything that comes out of Adam Levine’s mouth at this point, we’ve all been there. We’ve ALL screamed and cried "She will be loved” dramatically thinking about our own deluded narrative.

Well, I’m here to tell you, she WON’T be loved.